You might be really in love with someone, but remember they still have the right not to feel the same way about you.
Love and Sex Info
When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.
Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.
Q: I may have had drunk sex at a party but I don’t remember anything. If it’s true, this was my first time sex ever. What should I do? Geetika
Auntyji says... Geetika puttar take a deep breath and calm down. I know that this is a pretty big deal, but I’m giving you my world famous jaadu ki jhappi. You must have many unanswered questions and feel horribly confused.
Q: I don't want to be in a relationship, but I do enjoy having sex with different girls. Is this weird? Tushar (20), Jammu
Auntyji says... Wah ji wah Tushar dear, really appreciate the honesty. Self-awareness is a rare virtue, especially about socially unacceptable things. I hope you have heard the famous saying, ‘jab ladka ladki raazi to kya karega kaazi’.
Q: These days it seems everyone is either cheating or getting divorced. Is there still hope for true love? Naren (20), Delhi
Auntyji says… Naren beta that’s a very thoughtful question, especially from a young man your age. I’m sure everyone notices the change in the dynamics of relationships. But not too many care to bring it up. Yes, things have changed, but it is not all negative.
Q: A friend’s relative molested me. I feel ashamed and guilty and don’t know what to do. Palak (15), Faridabad
Auntyji says... Palak puttar, I am giving you the tightest jhaapi ever. Your aunty is so saddened to hear that you had to go through this. It’s tough and unfortunately you’re by no means the only one in this situation.
Q: I am 22 and want to get married. I am ready for both love and arranged marriage. What do you think is better of the two? Hemant, Pune
Auntyj says… Hemant ki baat hai puaatr, tune to Aunty ko khush kar ditta. Aaj kal kids only talk about living in or breaking up. Glad to hear that someone at your age is all gung-ho about settling down.
Q: I am in love with a girl who belongs to a lower caste. We really love each other but my parents will never approve our marriage. I am even scared to bring up this topic with them. I need your help Auntyji. Dipesh, Ghaziabad
Auntyji says… Jab pyar kia to darna kya. Pyar kia koi chori nahin ki chup chup aahein bharna kya.
Q: Dear Auntyji, I just delivered a baby boy last week and my husband already wants to have sex. I am not ready but how should I stop him? Sruthi, Nagpur
Auntyji says... Are wah Sruthi, twannu puttar di lakh lakh bhadjiyan ji. This is very good news indeed. As for sex, the situation is tricky, but you need to let him know that what you feel is normal.
Q: Auntyji, I am 18 and all set to lose my virginity to my boyfriend very soon. Is there anything I should definitely take care of apart from condoms? Swati, Noida
Auntyji says... Swati puttar, kya baat hai ji. First time sex can be very exciting and very scary at the same time, not to mention sensual, embarrassing, awkward and fun. So I am happy that you want be ready for it.
Q: My boyfriend wants me to elope with him, as my parents don’t like him. I love him a lot but I’m not sure about this plan. What should I do? Yashoda, Pune
Auntyji says... Yashoda puttarji, love is a wonderful thing but a very fickle one as well. I don’t know your boyfriend or your parents’ perspective on the matter. One thing I do know is that times have changed.
Q: Auntyji, my girlfriend wants me to masturbate her to orgasm. How do I do that? Shyam, Baroda
Auntyji says... Aji wah Shyam bhai, munda ho toh apke jaisa. Good to know that you kids are actually interested in taking proper care of your girlfriends. I will be happy to be your guide – though she will be your best guide of all.
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