Myth: women only get molested, assaulted or raped in dark alleys by strangers. Usually, it’s actually someone they know.
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“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.
“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”
“My guy and I had to find safe spots to have sex. There was no privacy at home so we had to venture outside,” Priya says.
Like many Indian couples, Priya and her boyfriend made love in parks and other deserted spots because both lived with their parents in Mumbai and didn’t have their own rooms at home. “What else could we have done,” she asks.
So there’s a raging debate about pornography all over India these days.
It’s always been in our consciousness but it took two potbellied right wing politicos to put good old porn in the spotlight. There are two extreme camps slugging it out. Either you sat up till midnight yesterday to see Poonam Pandey reveal her topless pic on Twitter. Or you sat up all night staring at it.
“I can’t date someone who is always checking out other girls or flirting with them.”
Sustaining romantic relationships often requires compromise but we all draw the line at something. We asked seven women in Bangalore what was the most important relationship deal-breaker for them. From cheating, violence, spying, jealousy to flirting, here are the things these women will not compromise on.
A few weeks ago, we asked our Love Matters Facebook audience what’s most important, sex, love or money.
Love came out favourite, but money was a close runner up. Sex trailed by a huge margin. I’m having trouble coping with this information – people would rather have money than sex? “Well, you can buy sex with money, can’t you now?” a friend explained.
“If I’m in a relationship with someone then we’d better be having sex.”
Six guys from Bangalore answer one difficult question: what is your most important relationship non-negotiable? From cheating, sex and attractiveness to politics and love of dogs here are the things men say they will not compromise on in a relationship. An all-male MyStory special for International Men’s Day.
Ever kissed your girl in public? Feels good, doesn't it? Though maybe what really got your adrenalin going was the taboo around it.
It's not easy being in a relationship in India – apart from marriage, that is. Yes, more men than ever before have girlfriends (as well as boyfriends) and live-ins are sort of common. But as a society we don't make young couples’ lives easy.
Premarital sex makes you break five out of the Ten Commandments right away.
But I doubt if religious codes discouraged many of us. As a society we have shed every hint of the Victorian prudery that ever existed. Sex has been constantly lowering its standards with each passing decade. So much so that today’s take on sex out of wedlock is a simple ‘why not?’
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Outside a dog, a condom is man’s best friend. Inside a dog, it’s a choking hazard! They help us prevent STDs and complications in relationships. Yet a gentleman in Mumbai almost divorced his wife over her love for the latex friend. Couldn’t this idiot come up with a better excuse?
As part of some journalistic assignments, I have been working in Bhutan for the past three weeks. It’s a neighbour to India, but there’s a huge difference in the way people view sex – it’s OK to have it and talk about it too!
That comes as a pleasant surprise to me. I’ve been wondering how this tiny, landlocked nation has managed to steer clear of a taboo around sex.
Living with your boyfriend or girlfriend without being married? It’s still a taboo for most Indians. But a growing number of couples are daring to make the move.
“It’s a constant battle,” says Amrita about her parents' insistence that she get married. She and her boyfriend Avinash, both 27, want to wait. They live together in Delhi and have full-time jobs in the fashion industry.
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