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When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.
Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.
I am coming out of the closet. I’m a wanker and proud of it.
I discovered the pleasure of masturbation completely by accident. 'Amazement', 'exhilaration' and 'freedom' are some the words I still associate with that very special day. And in my innocence I was quick to wonder why the process is shrouded in such notoriety.
Q: I’ve been living with my boyfriend for two years and I’ve just discovered that he still watches porn and also masturbates.
Our sex life is certainly not as exciting as when we first got together but I don’t see that as an excuse. These activities make me feel both cheated and unwanted. What should I do? Should I confront him? Richa Mehra, Bangalore
Masturbation – pretty much everybody does it, but nobody seems to talk about it.
That's too bad, because masturbating is fun and good for you! But then there are some uncertainties and myths. Can it make you blind? Will it impact your chance of having kids? And how do you actually do it? Read on to find out more in the seventh edition of our top five facts.
Q: Is it strange that I still masturbate even though I have sex with my girlfriend?
I’ve been seeing her for almost six months now and we’ve had sex from the start. I decided I was going to stop masturbating. It seemed silly when sex with her was so much more satisfying. But even after having sex with her, I’ve masturbated quite a few times. Is that abnormal? Shams, Phagwara
Vibrators give the most speedy and powerful orgasms. In fact women worry their sex toy could put their partners out of a job.
For women who have trouble reaching a climax, a vibrator is the answer, according to research at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in New York. But you should be aware of what you’re getting into – it might change the way you feel about sex.
Q: If I use a vibrator, will I get addicted and not be able to have orgasms the normal way?
I have heard some of my friends talk about using one. I want to buy one for myself but I am not sure. What will my husband think if he gets to know I have been using a vibrator to give myself orgasms? Namrata, Mumbai
Q: When I make out with my girlfriend, I end up ejaculating. What can I do about it?
I'm 22 years old, and I'm not interested in having sex until I'm married. Our making out doesn't really involve anything sexual, mostly just kissing. I don't want to not make out with her, but I don't like the coming part of it. Karan, Mumbai
“When I first watched it, I never thought I'd like porn,” 24-year-old Seema says, admitting she now enjoys it on a regular basis.
Studies worldwide show that the market for female-oriented porn is on the rise. However, it will still be a while before the secrecy around this form of self-indulgence disappears, the Mumbai-based advertising professional says.
Sex toys put the fun into safe sex, say the owners of Nepal's first sex shop 'Sweet Secret' in Kathmandu.
Sex toys are a tricky topic in South Asian countries. In India they’re officially banned – though there’s a lively black market trade, and vibrators are often sold as ‘massage’ products. But meanwhile across the border in Nepal, the authorities take a more positive attitude.
Sex addiction is now one of the top three addictions in the Netherlands, according to addiction specialist Dick Trubendorffer.
The problem is reaching epidemic proportions, he says. It’s perfectly natural to think about sex pretty often. But some people apparently have such an unhealthy obsession they find it hard to get on with a normal life.
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