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First times: "we ended up kissing"

First time lesbian experience: "we ended up kissing"“I had always been attracted to women, but I never thought I was a lesbian,” says Avni.

At school she had always thought being a lesbian meant “having short hair, wearing oversized boyish clothes, being unusually enthusiastic about the English Premier League and generally being a social outcast”. Part four in our first times series.


Oral sex

What men want

Kuber: Guy Next Door'What women want' is supposedly something that has befuddled men through the ages.

But will I be pricking too many bubbles if I say that in reality most of us don't really care? Instead let's talk about what men want. Apart from good old sex. Which is also something we want as much as any average woman might.


Hair Wars: the male bikini wax

Kuber - guy next doorIs metrosexuality already a fad past its prime?

Seems like a majority of urban Indian women definitely think so. Even my mostly liberal girlfriend won’t let me get a mani/pedi. Especially on the weekend I am meeting her parents. A rather sad development considering I’ve been passing off my skinny jeans and lilac shirts as an ode to metrosexuality (see Gay next door?).


Vagina confident: better health, more sex

Vagina confidentWomen who feel confident and comfortable about their vaginas have more sex and get more head, according to a recent US study.

But vaginal self-confidence isn’t only about pleasure, it could just save your life. Women who feel positive about their vaginas are more likely to go in for regular check-ups at the gynaecologist, the study found.


Getting head – you get what you ask for

Getting head - you get what you ask forWant him to go down on you in bed? Or maybe you’d rather he didn’t go there. If you don’t say so, chances are he’ll never know.

Whether it’s just a hook-up or a serious relationship, when it comes to getting head women are comfortable with different things, a recent US study on female college students’ oral sex preferences found.


Dutch sex: younger, faster, riskier?

Dutch sex: younger, faster, riskier?Young Dutch people are getting more free and easy about sex, says researcher Hanneke de Graaf.

More young people think it’s OK to have sex with someone you don’t have deep feelings for, she says. And youngsters are moving on to heavier sex at a younger age. So is all this permissiveness leading to more unplanned teen pregnancies and STDs?


Virginity pledges don’t work

virginity pledges dont workOver 60 percent of teens signing virginity pledges break their promise not to have sex until after marriage.

Pledges only work if teens have a high level of religious commitment. The problem is most teens signing them don’t. In fact, non-pledgers are better at abstinence than pledgers who lack religious commitment.


Sex with empathy: better for both

Sex with empathy: better for bothThe better you understand how your partner feels, the better sex life you’ll have.

If you’re good at empathising – grasping what your partner is feeling during sex – it won’t just boost your partner’s pleasure, but also your own, a recent US study of young people found.
 


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