It’s your right to say ‘no’ when you don’t feel like sex, for whatever reason. Your partner should respect your wishes. Sex should be fun, not a duty.
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“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.
“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”
Q: Dear Auntyji, I just delivered a baby boy last week and my husband already wants to have sex. I am not ready but how should I stop him? Sruthi, Nagpur
Auntyji says... Are wah Sruthi, twannu puttar di lakh lakh bhadjiyan ji. This is very good news indeed. As for sex, the situation is tricky, but you need to let him know that what you feel is normal.
Sex myths are the biggest menace ever. A contagious infection spreading from one ignorant person to another. It’s essential to cure this infection before it turns into an epidemic. So here's another in our Sex Myth Buster series.
This week, let’s talk about pregnancy. Is it still OK to have sex? Is exercise bad? Can you tell the gender of your baby without an ultrasound? Find out more...
Sex after pregnancy – you’ll find things have changed.
Giving birth is almost like a small explosion around a woman's sexual organs. They need time to heal. And with the woman's hormonal levels gone crazy, her libido may change, too. Find out how long the healing takes and what to be aware of when you start having sex again in Top Five Facts 21.
Q: I am in the third trimester of pregnancy, and I would like to have sex. Will sex during pregnancy hurt our baby? Nisha Singh
Auntyji says… Nisha puttar, congratulations, I am so happy to hear you and your husband are having a baby. You are not the first couple to worry about this matter, but fortunately, enjoying sex won’t harm your baby at all.
Pregnancy can be a joy or a nightmare, depending on your situation.
If you have unprotected sex, there is a chance that you’ll get pregnant. But how can you increase those chances? What do you need to take care of and keep healthy once you find out you're expecting? Find out the most important things to know about pregnancy in the 11th edition of our top five facts.
The bad news: being pregnant puts you off sex – and not surprisingly with things like sore breasts, tiredness and nausea.
You don’t feel in the mood, you don’t get turned on, your vagina is dry, orgasms just aren’t happening, and it hurts. But here’s the good news: it’s partly in the mind. Women who don’t realise they’re pregnant aren’t put off sex, a new study found.
Last week a friend of mine suffered major anxiety attacks – she hadn’t got her period.
It was two days due. “I thought I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I were reconsidering our whole lives,” she told me. When the test turned out negative, they heaved a sigh of relief. “We weren’t ready for it. But how could anyone be prepared for something as life changing?” she asked.
Women avoid their fathers when they are most likely to get pregnant, a new study found.
Is this nature’s way to prevent inbreeding? Or is it just that girls steer clear of their overbearing dads when they'd rather be with their boyfriends?
Q: My wife is not interested in sex anymore, now that we have a baby.
I feel that for her it was like, "OK, I am pregnant...now no more sex". What should I do? Sachin, Bhopal
Auntyji says… Sachin beta, badhaiyan. Well scored. But stop right there for now, century ki zaroorat nahi hai. Now, worry not ji, this is perfectly natural.
In India, people who have sex before marriage rarely use condoms, a recent study found.
Only seven percent of young Indian women who have premarital sex ever use a condom. For guys the figure’s higher, but still just one in four ever used protection with a girlfriend. It’s down to lack of knowledge, embarrassment and trouble getting hold of condoms, the authors say.
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