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“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.
“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”
Is sex less fun with a long-term partner? For some people it might be, studies suggest. But don’t panic, everything is relative.
Sex is supposed to be fun and exciting – but sometimes, it can also be nerve-racking. Lots of people are worried they might do something wrong in bed. Things can get a lot easier when you’ve been with someone for a while.
Good news for younger women – sex keeps getting better. Older women say sex gets more satisfying with age.
A good sex life doesn’t seem to be affected by less sex and a lower sex drive as women get older. Other sides of sex, like physical and emotional intimacy, may make all the difference when it comes to being satisfied.
How well you’re matched for sex affects whether your sex life will be full of passion, or full of problems.
The catch is that being sexually similar to your partner has different consequences for men and women. Scientists quizzed 35 newlywed couples: what’s more important for sexual satisfaction, your own sexual make-up, or the match with your partner?
Q: I am a 32-year-old woman and I find I think about sex more than ever before. Will my husband find it weird if I tell him about this?
I have heard people say that a woman's sex drive is at its peak when she reaches 30 – is this true? What will happen after this? I don’t see anything like this happening with my husband. Kieran, Kolkata
The bad news: being pregnant puts you off sex – and not surprisingly with things like sore breasts, tiredness and nausea.
You don’t feel in the mood, you don’t get turned on, your vagina is dry, orgasms just aren’t happening, and it hurts. But here’s the good news: it’s partly in the mind. Women who don’t realise they’re pregnant aren’t put off sex, a new study found.
Snorting the hormone oxytocin prescribed by his doctor had a surprising effect for one man – it worked wonders on his sex life.
Oxytocin’s unexpected sexual effects on mystery patient Mr B were so strong that scientists are calling for more research. Could this hormone be a new love potion for men?
Q: My wife is not interested in sex anymore, now that we have a baby.
I feel that for her it was like, "OK, I am pregnant...now no more sex". What should I do? Sachin, Bhopal
Auntyji says… Sachin beta, badhaiyan. Well scored. But stop right there for now, century ki zaroorat nahi hai. Now, worry not ji, this is perfectly natural.
Women want sex less and less as a relationship goes on, while men stay as horny as ever.
It’s fact, not just cliché. You can work out exactly how much a woman will want sex just by looking at the length of her relationship, say researchers. Time will tell you more about her lust level than how well her relationship is doing and how sexually satisfied she is.
It’s 11 pm. You’re tired and looking forward to curling up with a good book – meanwhile your partner is revved up and eager to curl up with you.
“I think this is a very recognisable situation for many women,” says psychologist Ellen Laan. Women ask, “Where did he get that desire from so suddenly. Where can you buy that?”
Will an hors-d'oeuvre of oysters followed by strawberries and chocolate for dessert set you up for a steamy night with your lover?
Those who swear by aphrodisiacs claim they increase sexual desire, says José Luis Beiztegui of the Spanish Association of Sexologists: “In some way they eroticise the brain.” But their stimulating effects have never been proven.
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