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When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.
Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.
Sexual harassment at work – does it happen in India? That’s the question we put to our Facebook audience recently.
Sure it happens, most agreed – it’s a worldwide phenomenon. A few men blamed women and their ‘Western’ values for harassment. The feminists then came to the rescue and pointed a stern finger at the male gaze. Find out how the debate rolled out.
Sexual harassment sadly is something we hear more and more about.
It's a serious problem that can blight your life. Yet street harassment often gets called ‘eve teasing’ in India, which makes it sound less serious than it is. Find out what's sexual harassment and what's not, and how you might respond to it – read the top five facts.
“My new boss was flirting with me,” a friend of mine told me last week. “I turned him away and he got offended. Now it’s affecting my professional relationship with him.”
My friend, a management professional, said, “It’s a damn tricky situation. If I go along with it, it will be against my principles. But if I don’t, it will affect my career in this work place.”
“I like big butts and I cannot lie.” Yes, that’s a line from a childhood favourite.
Yes, I owe a lot to Sir Mix-a-Lot for opening my eyes. No, I still don’t get most men’s obsession with the women’s chests. But I worry about the bottoms of Indian women. It’s all that ass grabbing and butt pinching they have to suffer.
Last week a male friend of mine told me that he felt sexually harassed.
He thought I had reacted quite casually. It raised a storm – when men face harassment, it’s just not the same. It doesn’t make headlines. “Why is it atrocious when a woman feels harassed and almost a joke when a man gets molested?” he asked me angrily. Quite naturally, I began wondering about it.
Yes, it's Holi time again... Time for women all over India to don 'modern' outfits and allow the men to revel in the festivities.
In keeping with the secular spirit of our fine nation, women across religions and castes join in. They offer to be moving targets for the balloons. They enjoy having their freshly-moisturised body parts felt up. Don’t they?
Last weekend I hiked to some mountains just outside Bombay. It was pleasant, except that I felt harassed by a male co-hiker.
And to my utter surprise, I stayed quiet and avoided confrontation. Whatever happened to the won’t-take-bullshit rebel/feminist inside me?
Eve teasing is South Asia’s euphemism for mauling hands and foul-mouthed comments.
Catcalls, suggestive remarks, rubbing against women in a crowd, or full-on groping. In the street, on the bus, on the metro. Almost every woman experiences it. Every woman hates it. So what on earth makes guys do it? Love Matters asked two Indian men for their take on the street sexual harassment plague.
A SlutWalk march in protest at street harassment will take place in Bangalore on Sunday.
The SlutWalk movement started in Canada when a policeman controversially said women should “avoid dressing like sluts” to stay safe. Love Matters asked a group of women in Bangalore to give us tips on how to stay safe and avoid ‘eve teasing’ in their home town.
Most women working in Indian IT and outsourcing companies say they’ve experienced some kind of sexual harassment at work.
As part of the Men Say No blogathon to act against gender based violence, we have this second blog about the reality of harassment in the workplace.
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