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Coming out to my parents: from horror to pride

When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.

Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.


Fertility

If you have sex with a man around the time of ovulation, you can get pregnant.

Only when you ovulate is there an unfertilised egg waiting for a sperm cell. Once an egg comes into contact with sperm, it becomes fertilised and attaches itself to the womb. This starts the conception process and you become pregnant.

If you have sex before you ovulate, sperm can hang around for days in your fallopian tube waiting for an egg to pop out. If you have sex after you ovulate, the egg will be ready and waiting for the sperm to arrive.

But remember, having sex only at other times of the month is not a reliable way to avoid getting pregnant!

Fertile and most fertile
What’s the difference between being ‘fertile’ and being ‘most fertile’? If you’re fertile, it means you’re able to get pregnant – you’ve reached puberty and your ovaries are working properly. You’re most fertile around the time of ovulation, so you’re most likely to get pregnant if you have sex at this time.

Ovulation roulette
You can get pregnant from the first time you ovulate, so even before you have your first period. On the other hand, just because you’ve started your periods doesn’t mean you can get pregnant. 

In the first year you have your periods, an egg might only be released one in five times. By the time you’ve been having periods for six years, an egg will be released nine out of ten times.

But remember, if you don’t want to get pregnant, don’t play ovulation roulette – use contraception.

Less fertile
As you get older, especially over the age of about 30, you tend to become less fertile, and eventually you stop ovulating and having periods. On average, women are able to get pregnant between the ages of 15 and 49.

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