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“I was introduced to my future husband by email, met him for the first time on Skype and married him two months later,” says Divya.
Divya got married two years ago to a match arranged by her father’s friend. According to her even though an arranged marriage doesn’t sound like the most romantic thing in the world, it’s the best decision she has made in her life.
Even though men are supposed to be obsessed with sex, do we get the short end of the stick?
We spend nights planning positions and plotting the next excursion to the G-spot. For those who came in late, the female G-spot is the Holy Grail inside a vagina, source of multiple orgasms for women and gratitude-filled BJs for men. Yet women haven't even bothered to find out if men have a G-spot.
Yes, the name’s befuddling. My father's fourth cousin, thrice removed, Ernst Gräfenberg, studied this portion of genitalia in the 1940s and the spot is still named after him.
Women have it easy My random research in the first class coach of the Bombay Local trains shows that every second man has aspired to find the venerable G-spot. Or at least used as the pretext for random fun. But a straw poll also shows that virtually no women have heard of the male G-spot.
Which brings us to the big question. Do women have it really easy in the carnal department? They decide when to do it, where to do it and what kind of protection to use? And after that the situation goes completely out of our hands.
Selling ourselves short?
Just because my orgasms are easier, it's my responsibility to work much harder, or so I've been told. While we are left wondering if she actually came, was it good, where did it come from and did size matter. The first time I heard about the female orgasm, it was in the context of the seven most impossible feats for superman.
Weren't our relationship supposed to be all about mutual pleasure? While the man on the street can rattle off top ten erogenous zones for women, the controlling gender's primary party trick is flashing.
Maybe it's because we men sell ourselves too short. The Bollywood Khans have made bare chests the norm while Katerina still titillates with nothing more than a bare shoulder. Where's our sense of equality now? Can I demand frontal nudity from our female actresses? Tastefully done of course and only if the script demands it.
Who knows, maybe men are capable of multiple orgasms after all. It's just that our partners haven't tried hard enough. Because some fine folks have found out that men are also supposed to have a G-spot.
Apparently it's a small bump somewhere near the prostate gland. And as easy to locate as the yeti, Loch Ness Monster, flying pigs and the female G-Spot.
OK, I won't deny outright the existence of either G-spots. In my very humble experiences, I couldn't find either. Don't take my word for it. Ask all your friends. As my mum always said, sometimes it's just good to have something to believe in. I think of it as a psychological sweet spot that helps many of us. And the real pleasure is the expedition.
But the women still don't seemed aroused enough to explore the male anatomy. Maybe we need some porno to incubate and propagate these thoughts. But as long as we can have sex on demand and shamelessly collapse in ten minutes, life is not very bad yet.
Could be better though. Yes, I get a hard-on thinking about Katerina's shoulder, but it doesn't mean I don't want anything more than that. Come on, show me the bra strap at least.
By Kuber Sharma
Photo: Kuber Sharma, © Love Matters/RNWThe views expressed in our blogs don’t necessarily represent those of Love Matters.
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