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First times: "we ended up kissing"

First time lesbian experience: "we ended up kissing"“I had always been attracted to women, but I never thought I was a lesbian,” says Avni.

At school she had always thought being a lesbian meant “having short hair, wearing oversized boyish clothes, being unusually enthusiastic about the English Premier League and generally being a social outcast”. Part four in our first times series.


G-spot orgasms: still going days later

G-spot orgasms: still going days laterDoes the G-spot really exist? Of course, says Dutch sex writer Marianne Ras – she can tell you from personal experience.

The G-spot can give most women a more intense sensation than the clitoris, she says. “A vaginal orgasm brought on by stimulation of the G-spot is very intense and can lead some women to ejaculate. This type of orgasm can sometimes be felt days after the sex.”

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Marianne’s book Where is the G-spot then? takes a light-hearted approach to a wide range of sex-related topics, including the elusive G-spot.

The G-spot is named after German gynaecologist Ernst Gräfenberg, who was the first to localize this spot. It's said to be between two and seven centimetres up the front vaginal wall.

Where is it?
But people still argue whether the G-spot even exists. Most of the evidence to say it does just comes from personal stories.

Though Marianne Ras believes the G-spot exists, she says most women don’t know where it is.

“I asked women I know if they have a G-spot or if they have experienced it. Most say they have, but I think they are lying. They said they know where their G-spot is but when I questioned them further, their answers revealed that they have no idea.”

Need to pee
So where is the G-spot? Marianne writes that it takes practice to find the G-spot. In her book, she suggests that women first lie on their stomachs with their legs apart, and their labia elevated. From this position, they can reach the G-spot by putting two fingers into the vagina with the palm of the hand facing down.

Plenty of stimulation is needed because the G-spot is located under several layers of tissue. Upon making contact with the G-spot, the woman may feel like she needs to pee, but after a short period this feeling should give way to an intense erotic sensation.
 

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