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Fantasising about my girlfriend’s best friend

Fantasising about my girlfriend's best friend“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.

“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”


India tops child bride table

Bengali bride - India tops child bride tableForty-seven percent of Indian women aged between 20 and 24 were married by 18. That’s higher than the average for both South Central Asia and Africa, the Times of India reports.

The figures come from the 2011 data sheet The World’s Women and Girls, produced by the Washington-based Population Reference Bureau.

Bangladesh’s early marriage rate is even higher than India’s. It’s Pakistan that brings down the regional average, with a pre-18 marriage figure around half that of India’s.

India’s early marriage rate has dropped by about seven percent over the past 20 years, as it has done in other countries in the region, according to UNICEF figures.

Education
But with a lack of educational opportunities for teenage girls, government education schemes for younger children could actually be encouraging teen marriage indirectly, Professor Vibhuti Patel of Mumbai’s SNDT Women’s University told the Times of India.

Thanks to state education programmes, young children are now able to go to school, so older girls are less often called on to look after younger brothers and sisters, the professor argues. But adolescent girls commonly drop out of school, and there’s no vocational training available for them. Concerned that daughters with time on their hands will end up dating and pregnant, parents feel pressure to get them married off.

Flouted
Western countries don’t warrant a mention in UNICEF’s child marriage statistics. Yet in Europe and in the US, although the marriageable age is 18, it drops to 16 with parental consent – even younger in a few European countries and US states.

Meanwhile, the legal age for marriage in India is 18 for girls and 21 for boys. It’s a law that’s clearly widely flouted. According to UNICEF, India accounts for 40 percent of the world’s child marriages.

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