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“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.
“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”
Kunyaza is a traditional sexual technique used in central Africa. It’s said to be the secret for women to have incredible wet-sex orgasms.
The trick is hands-on penis action – the result is spectacular squirting. Dr Nsekuye Bizimana, a Rwandan sex expert working in Germany, has made a study of the technique.
The basic principle is simple and has been passed on by word of mouth in central African countries for at least 150 years. The man takes hold of his penis and uses the head to tap the woman’s clitoris, labia and vaginal opening.
He can move the rhythmic tapping around the vulva in circular or zigzagging movements. The tapping can be varied with rubbing, also using the tip of the penis.
It’s important that there’s plenty of lubrication from the start, otherwise the tapping can be too sensitive – a little saliva works wonders.
If after a while the man’s wrist gets tired, the woman can get hold of his penis and take over. And women also sometimes help out by holding open their labia to intensify the sensation.
In a more advanced version of kunyaza, the man puts his penis inside the woman’s vagina, again takes hold of it, and then moves it from side to side or round and round to stimulate the vagina on the inside. He can vary this with more conventional in-and-out thrusting.
In what Dr Bizimana describes as the “classical” kunyaza position, the man sits down and the woman sits in his lap facing him. But he says “less sportive” people might prefer easier “modern” positions, for example with the woman lying on her back and the man kneeling between her legs.
All this penis tapping and wiggling is supposed to have wondrous effects on women. For one thing it’s said to trigger orgasm after orgasm. But kunyaza’s main reputation is that it produces female ejaculation – it makes women squirt.
The name kunyaza actually means ‘to urinate’. However, it’s not urine that women squirt from their vaginas, but lashings of milky vaginal fluid.
In fact, kunyaza is also known simply as ‘wet sex’. And much as they love it, Rwandan men apparently have a none-too-flattering nickname for women who are prone to lavish squirting: shami ryıikivu, meaning ‘put a bucket under her’.
If you’re wondering whether Kunyaza is worth a try, sex researcher Sylvia Tamale says one Ugandan sexuality teacher gave it the following glowing review:
‘‘I myself was truly ignorant about female ejaculation until I met my current lover. If your lover knows what he is doing, you’ll pour rivers and experience multiple orgasms at the same time.’’
If you’ve tried kunyaza, leave a comment and let us know your experiences!
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