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First times: "we ended up kissing"

First time lesbian experience: "we ended up kissing"“I had always been attracted to women, but I never thought I was a lesbian,” says Avni.

At school she had always thought being a lesbian meant “having short hair, wearing oversized boyish clothes, being unusually enthusiastic about the English Premier League and generally being a social outcast”. Part four in our first times series.

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Arousal and orgasms

making loveWhen you get really turned on, changes happen in your body. Eventually, if you get really aroused, you can have an orgasm – in other words, you can come, or climax.

What happens when you’re aroused?

 

Girls and women

  • Your vagina becomes wetter
  • Your clitoris begins to swell and grow larger
  • Your pupils (the dark centre in your eyes) get bigger
  • Your lips get redder or darker
  • Your heart beats faster
  • Your breathing speeds up and you may even make noises
  • Your nipples become harder and larger
  • Your breasts may even grow larger

 

When you get sexually aroused, your vagina becomes wetter, which makes it smooth and slippery. This is important because it makes it easier to make love, so intercourse isn’t painful.

Boys and men

  • You get an erection – your penis goes hard and gets bigger.
  • A clear fluid called pre-ejaculate comes out of the end of your penis.
  • Your breathing speeds up and you may even make noises
  • Your pupils (the dark centre in your eyes) get bigger

 

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