When you have an argument with your partner, make sure you watch your volume and tone of voice. You won’t think you’re yelling, but your partner might.
Love and Sex Info
“I was introduced to my future husband by email, met him for the first time on Skype and married him two months later,” says Divya.
Divya got married two years ago to a match arranged by her father’s friend. According to her even though an arranged marriage doesn’t sound like the most romantic thing in the world, it’s the best decision she has made in her life.
When a girl has an orgasm, or climax, the muscles of the pelvic floor, around the vagina and anus, squeeze together rhythmically, tensing and relaxing.
Sometimes the womb also contracts and relaxes too. This all gives an intensely pleasurable feeling in the pubic area. Some girls feel it right through their bodies. It can make your whole body jerk.
More than one orgasm
Girls can have more than one orgasm in a row, not long after each other. This is because within 10 to 15 seconds of having an orgasm, the clitoris returns to its normal size. It’s then ready for stimulation again. Boys need a longer period to recover after they ejaculate.
Some girls squirt out liquid when they have an orgasm. It’s not urine, but vaginal fluid.
How can a girl have an orgasm?
Stimulate the clitoris, for example by rubbing with a finger or licking. For most girls, just having intercourse isn’t enough to make them have an orgasm. This is because the vagina is relatively insensitive and the clitoris often isn’t stimulated enough just by the penis going in and out of the vagina. See also fingering and oral sex.
Some girls have a G-spot. It’s an area the size of a coin, three to five centimetres inside the vagina, on the front wall. For some girls it doesn’t give any special feeling, but for others it’s particularly sensitive. It can be stimulated by fingering or in some positions during intercourse.
Keeping in step
Do you find that he comes more quickly than you do? That’s perfectly normal. Most boys reach orgasm more quickly and easily than girls do. A couple of tips to help keep in step with each other:
- Take time to build up your lovemaking. And make clear to your partner what you like.
Try to let go and just enjoy him touching you. You don’t always have to concentrate on him. He also finds it really arousing to see you enjoying his caresses.
Actually your whole body can give you pleasure. But certain areas feel particularly nice when they’re touched. For girls it’s the vulva and vagina, and certainly the clitoris. But your neck, arms, breasts and buttocks are also sensitive. Find out more about girls’ and boys’ sensitive spots here.
Breasts and sex
Breasts, especially the nipples, are sensitive to the touch and can grow harder and larger when you’re aroused. The areola, the area around the nipple, swells up and turns darker in colour, and the skin goes bumpy. Many girls like having their breasts and nipples touched during lovemaking. Your partner can use fingers, lips, tongue, or even teeth. When your breasts are touched you often feel it in your vagina, which gets moist. It can be particularly nice if your breasts and vulva are touched at the same time.
Did you both have an orgasm at the same time? You’ve been lucky! Usually it’s not so easy to have a simultaneous orgasm. When you come, you’re usually thinking about yourself and not your partner. Don’t put too much pressure on it.
If you manage to come at the same time it’s nice, but it’s also exciting to come one after the other. You can pay more attention to your partner and enjoy seeing him or her having an orgasm.
It’s nice to enjoy cuddling, caressing and talking after making love. In particular many girls find afterplay important.
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