When trying to say no in a sensitive way, you could say: I enjoy being with you a lot, but I don’t think I am ready for this yet.
Love and Sex Info
When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.
Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.
When a boy gets really turned on, he can have an orgasm – in other words, he can come, or climax.
When you’re aroused, you’re penis gets hard and erect. When you have an orgasm, your muscles contract and you ejaculate – a yellowish white liquid comes out of your penis. Boys often discover orgasms themselves when they start masturbating.
When a boy comes while having intercourse, he usually stops moving back and forth. At this point it’s usually too sensitive to move. After an orgasm the head of the penis, the glans, is usually very sensitive. If you touch it, it can be very uncomfortable. Girls on the other hand often like it if the movement goes on for a little while after they’ve had an orgasm.
In fact your entire body is one big sensitive spot. But it feels particularly nice when certain parts of your body are touched – these are called erogenous zones. In boys it’s the penis and testicles, and in particular the head of the penis. But your neck, arms, chest and buttocks are also sensitive. Find out more about girls’ and boys’ sensitive spots here.
A boy can get an erection at the most unexpected moments. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. And it’s also not a sign that it’s immediately time for sex.
Sometimes a boy can reach orgasm too quickly during intercourse. This can be annoying, leave the girl feeling disappointed and unsatisfied, and both of you feeling like it’s all over too soon. Here are some tips to delay reaching a climax:
- take a short break
- switch your attention to other parts of your body
- think about something other than sex
- withdraw your penis from the vagina for a little while
- squeeze the base of your penis underneath with your fingers
Keeping in step
Do you find that you comes more quickly than she does? That’s perfectly normal. Most boys reach orgasm more quickly and easily than girls do. A couple of tips to help keep in step with each other:
- Take time to build up your lovemaking. And ask your partner what she likes.
Put her at ease so she can let go and just enjoy you touching her without always caressing you too. Show her that you also find it really arousing to see her enjoying your caresses.
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