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Coming out to my parents: from horror to pride
When Nakshatra goes out for a coffee with his mother, they’re both on the look-out for cute men. “Do you fancy that guy?” she’ll say.
Things haven’t always been this way. Growing up in a village, he became aware of his feelings aged 16. A year later, after a move to Mumbai, he told his parents he was gay. His mum said she wished he was dead.
Explore her body
Click on one of the faces on the top right. Then click on the different squares if you're curious to learn more about a body part. What will happen, is that an explicit box will appear on the top right. Click on it, and the box will reveal a photo of the body part in more detail.
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Ears
You can stroke them, kiss them, suck on the lobes, blow softly in them, slip your tongue inside – keep a close eye on her reaction, not everyone likes it!
Mouth and lips
Very important in lovemaking! You can kiss in lots of different ways. Discover together what you find pleasurable. Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth (be gentle!) to explore each other’s bodies.
Breasts and nipples
Breasts and nipples are really sensitive. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue and even your teeth (be very gentle!) to caress them. You can stroke them very gently, or rub and massage them more firmly.
Caress the breasts around the nipples, then work your way to the areola (the darker skin around the nipples), and finally stroke, kiss, lick or suck the nipples. Sometimes the nipples can be so sensitive it’s too much, so pay attention to her reaction.
When a girl is turned on (or if she’s cold) her nipples get harder and darker, and stand out more. Girls often feel it in their vagina as well when their breasts are touched, and it becomes moist.
It can feel especially nice for your partner if you touch her breasts and vagina at the same time. Girls sometimes like to touch their breasts when they masturbate.
Inside of the arms and elbows
Stroke softly over the upper arms, down along the inside of the arms and elbows – most people love it!
Navel and belly
The belly, or abdomen, is full of sensitive places. Caress or kiss softly down over her belly – it can be particularly exiting because it leads down towards her vagina. Pay attention to how she’s responding!
Hands
Obviously there’s a lot you can do with your hands. You can use them to stroke and caress your partner – or to explore your own body and give yourself pleasure. But it also feels nice if you stroke your partner’s hands. The palms are especially sensitive.
Vulva and vagina
Of course, the vulva and vagina are the most sensitive parts of her whole body, and especially the clitoris. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue to caress her labia and clitoris, and you can put a finger or two fingers – or your penis of course – inside her vagina.
The area between the vagina and the anus, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it. The clitoris can sometimes be so sensitive that it’s too intense if you touch it directly – she might prefer it if you stroke just above it or to the side.
Explore her body, use your imagination, and above all pay close attention to her reaction. Feel the way she moves, listen to her breathing and the sounds she makes.
When you make love, the vagina isn’t the place to start! Build up the tension slowly. Caress other sensitive places, like her neck, arms, back and thighs, then work your way to her breasts and buttocks. The more you kiss and caress her, the more aroused she’ll become, until she’s ready for you to move to her labia, clitoris and vagina.
When a girl is turned on, her labia and clitoris swell, the labia open up and the vagina becomes wet. The moisture is very important – it makes it easier and more comfortable for a finger or penis to slip inside.
How can you bring a girl to orgasm? Stimulate her clitoris using your fingers or by licking. Most girls don’t have an orgasm just by having intercourse, because although the penis in the vagina feels nice, it doesn’t stimulate the clitoris enough for them to climax.
An orgasm is a gorgeous feeling in your vagina, or sometimes through your whole body. All the muscles around your vulva repeatedly squeeze together and relax. Your heart can beat fast, your nipples get erect, you sweat, and you might get a red flush over your face and chest. Each time you have an orgasm is slightly different. Sometimes it’s really intense, and other times it passes more quickly.
A lot of girls like to masturbate. There are lots of ways to do it – with your finger, or perhaps with the jet of water from the shower. Some girls like to use a vibrator.
There’s nothing weird about masturbating. It feels nice and you get to know your own body. When you make love with a partner, you know what you like and how you can have an orgasm, and you can guide your partner.
Inner thighs
The inner thighs are really sensitive, and this can be an especially exiting place to be touched because it leads up towards the vagina. You can stroke with your fingers, kiss or lick.
Feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.Soles of the feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
Back of the head and neck
The back of the head and especially the neck are very sensitive. Kiss or stroke the back of her neck or run your fingers through her hair.
Back
The back is one big sensitive area. Stroke gently with your fingertips or nails, massage more firmly, or run your fingers up and down her spine. Don’t forget the sides – follow the line from her armpits down to her hips.
Buttocks and anus
It can feel lovely having your buttocks stroked, massaged or squeezed.
The anus isn’t necessarily the first part of the body you might think of touching, but it’s also very sensitive to the touch, and many girls like to have it stroked during lovemaking. It’s important that she washes properly beforehand of course!
The area between the anus and the vagina, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it.
Some girls like it if you put a finger inside their anus. Always moisten your finger first with saliva or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus squeezes shut – it’s a reflex. Rest your finger on it for a moment, and then you can go further.
If you find the idea of putting your finger in someone’s anus unpleasant, try showering together before you make love to make sure you’re both nice and clean all over.
Some people love to include the anus in their lovemaking. But if you don’t, just say so! You don’t have to like everything. Explore as far as you like, and don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
It doesn’t hurt to have a finger or penis in your anus if it happens in the right way and you take your time. Always use plenty of lubricant and a condom.
Does it feel nice? Do you want to carry on? Go with your feelings. Stop if it doesn’t feel right.
Never put pressure on anyone to have anal sex if they don’t seem entirely happy about it!
Ears
You can stroke them, kiss them, suck on the lobes, blow softly in them, slip your tongue inside – keep a close eye on her reaction, not everyone likes it!
Mouth and lips
Very important in lovemaking! You can kiss in lots of different ways. Discover together what you find pleasurable. Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth (be gentle!) to explore each other’s bodies.
Breasts and nipples
Breasts and nipples are really sensitive. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue and even your teeth (be very gentle!) to caress them. You can stroke them very gently, or rub and massage them more firmly.
Caress the breasts around the nipples, then work your way to the areola (the darker skin around the nipples), and finally stroke, kiss, lick or suck the nipples. Sometimes the nipples can be so sensitive it’s too much, so pay attention to her reaction.
When a girl is turned on (or if she’s cold) her nipples get harder and darker, and stand out more. Girls often feel it in their vagina as well when their breasts are touched, and it becomes moist.
It can feel especially nice for your partner if you touch her breasts and vagina at the same time. Girls sometimes like to touch their breasts when they masturbate.
Inside of the arms and elbows
Stroke softly over the upper arms, down along the inside of the arms and elbows – most people love it!
Navel and belly
The belly, or abdomen, is full of sensitive places. Caress or kiss softly down over her belly – it can be particularly exiting because it leads down towards her vagina. Pay attention to how she’s responding!
Hands
Obviously there’s a lot you can do with your hands. You can use them to stroke and caress your partner – or to explore your own body and give yourself pleasure. But it also feels nice if you stroke your partner’s hands. The palms are especially sensitive.
Vulva and vagina
Of course, the vulva and vagina are the most sensitive parts of her whole body, and especially the clitoris. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue to caress her labia and clitoris, and you can put a finger or two fingers – or your penis of course – inside her vagina.
The area between the vagina and the anus, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it. The clitoris can sometimes be so sensitive that it’s too intense if you touch it directly – she might prefer it if you stroke just above it or to the side.
Explore her body, use your imagination, and above all pay close attention to her reaction. Feel the way she moves, listen to her breathing and the sounds she makes.
When you make love, the vagina isn’t the place to start! Build up the tension slowly. Caress other sensitive places, like her neck, arms, back and thighs, then work your way to her breasts and buttocks. The more you kiss and caress her, the more aroused she’ll become, until she’s ready for you to move to her labia, clitoris and vagina.
When a girl is turned on, her labia and clitoris swell, the labia open up and the vagina becomes wet. The moisture is very important – it makes it easier and more comfortable for a finger or penis to slip inside.
How can you bring a girl to orgasm? Stimulate her clitoris using your fingers or by licking. Most girls don’t have an orgasm just by having intercourse, because although the penis in the vagina feels nice, it doesn’t stimulate the clitoris enough for them to climax.
An orgasm is a gorgeous feeling in your vagina, or sometimes through your whole body. All the muscles around your vulva repeatedly squeeze together and relax. Your heart can beat fast, your nipples get erect, you sweat, and you might get a red flush over your face and chest. Each time you have an orgasm is slightly different. Sometimes it’s really intense, and other times it passes more quickly.
A lot of girls like to masturbate. There are lots of ways to do it – with your finger, or perhaps with the jet of water from the shower. Some girls like to use a vibrator.
There’s nothing weird about masturbating. It feels nice and you get to know your own body. When you make love with a partner, you know what you like and how you can have an orgasm, and you can guide your partner.
Inner thighs
The inner thighs are really sensitive, and this can be an especially exiting place to be touched because it leads up towards the vagina. You can stroke with your fingers, kiss or lick.
Feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.Soles of the feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
Back of the head and neck
The back of the head and especially the neck are very sensitive. Kiss or stroke the back of her neck or run your fingers through her hair.
Back
The back is one big sensitive area. Stroke gently with your fingertips or nails, massage more firmly, or run your fingers up and down her spine. Don’t forget the sides – follow the line from her armpits down to her hips.
Buttocks and anus
It can feel lovely having your buttocks stroked, massaged or squeezed.
The anus isn’t necessarily the first part of the body you might think of touching, but it’s also very sensitive to the touch, and many girls like to have it stroked during lovemaking. It’s important that she washes properly beforehand of course!
The area between the anus and the vagina, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it.
Some girls like it if you put a finger inside their anus. Always moisten your finger first with saliva or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus squeezes shut – it’s a reflex. Rest your finger on it for a moment, and then you can go further.
If you find the idea of putting your finger in someone’s anus unpleasant, try showering together before you make love to make sure you’re both nice and clean all over.
Some people love to include the anus in their lovemaking. But if you don’t, just say so! You don’t have to like everything. Explore as far as you like, and don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
It doesn’t hurt to have a finger or penis in your anus if it happens in the right way and you take your time. Always use plenty of lubricant and a condom.
Does it feel nice? Do you want to carry on? Go with your feelings. Stop if it doesn’t feel right.
Never put pressure on anyone to have anal sex if they don’t seem entirely happy about it!
Ears
You can stroke them, kiss them, suck on the lobes, blow softly in them, slip your tongue inside – keep a close eye on her reaction, not everyone likes it!
Mouth and lips
Very important in lovemaking! You can kiss in lots of different ways. Discover together what you find pleasurable. Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth (be gentle!) to explore each other’s bodies.
Breasts and nipples
Breasts and nipples are really sensitive. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue and even your teeth (be very gentle!) to caress them. You can stroke them very gently, or rub and massage them more firmly.
Caress the breasts around the nipples, then work your way to the areola (the darker skin around the nipples), and finally stroke, kiss, lick or suck the nipples. Sometimes the nipples can be so sensitive it’s too much, so pay attention to her reaction.
When a girl is turned on (or if she’s cold) her nipples get harder and darker, and stand out more. Girls often feel it in their vagina as well when their breasts are touched, and it becomes moist.
It can feel especially nice for your partner if you touch her breasts and vagina at the same time. Girls sometimes like to touch their breasts when they masturbate.
Inside of the arms and elbows
Stroke softly over the upper arms, down along the inside of the arms and elbows – most people love it!
Navel and belly
The belly, or abdomen, is full of sensitive places. Caress or kiss softly down over her belly – it can be particularly exiting because it leads down towards her vagina. Pay attention to how she’s responding!
Hands
Obviously there’s a lot you can do with your hands. You can use them to stroke and caress your partner – or to explore your own body and give yourself pleasure. But it also feels nice if you stroke your partner’s hands. The palms are especially sensitive.
Vulva and vagina
Of course, the vulva and vagina are the most sensitive parts of her whole body, and especially the clitoris. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue to caress her labia and clitoris, and you can put a finger or two fingers – or your penis of course – inside her vagina.
The area between the vagina and the anus, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it. The clitoris can sometimes be so sensitive that it’s too intense if you touch it directly – she might prefer it if you stroke just above it or to the side.
Explore her body, use your imagination, and above all pay close attention to her reaction. Feel the way she moves, listen to her breathing and the sounds she makes.
When you make love, the vagina isn’t the place to start! Build up the tension slowly. Caress other sensitive places, like her neck, arms, back and thighs, then work your way to her breasts and buttocks. The more you kiss and caress her, the more aroused she’ll become, until she’s ready for you to move to her labia, clitoris and vagina.
When a girl is turned on, her labia and clitoris swell, the labia open up and the vagina becomes wet. The moisture is very important – it makes it easier and more comfortable for a finger or penis to slip inside.
How can you bring a girl to orgasm? Stimulate her clitoris using your fingers or by licking. Most girls don’t have an orgasm just by having intercourse, because although the penis in the vagina feels nice, it doesn’t stimulate the clitoris enough for them to climax.
An orgasm is a gorgeous feeling in your vagina, or sometimes through your whole body. All the muscles around your vulva repeatedly squeeze together and relax. Your heart can beat fast, your nipples get erect, you sweat, and you might get a red flush over your face and chest. Each time you have an orgasm is slightly different. Sometimes it’s really intense, and other times it passes more quickly.
A lot of girls like to masturbate. There are lots of ways to do it – with your finger, or perhaps with the jet of water from the shower. Some girls like to use a vibrator.
There’s nothing weird about masturbating. It feels nice and you get to know your own body. When you make love with a partner, you know what you like and how you can have an orgasm, and you can guide your partner.
Inner thighs
The inner thighs are really sensitive, and this can be an especially exiting place to be touched because it leads up towards the vagina. You can stroke with your fingers, kiss or lick.
Feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.Soles of the feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
Back of the head and neck
The back of the head and especially the neck are very sensitive. Kiss or stroke the back of her neck or run your fingers through her hair.
Back
The back is one big sensitive area. Stroke gently with your fingertips or nails, massage more firmly, or run your fingers up and down her spine. Don’t forget the sides – follow the line from her armpits down to her hips.
Buttocks and anus
It can feel lovely having your buttocks stroked, massaged or squeezed.
The anus isn’t necessarily the first part of the body you might think of touching, but it’s also very sensitive to the touch, and many girls like to have it stroked during lovemaking. It’s important that she washes properly beforehand of course!
The area between the anus and the vagina, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it.
Some girls like it if you put a finger inside their anus. Always moisten your finger first with saliva or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus squeezes shut – it’s a reflex. Rest your finger on it for a moment, and then you can go further.
If you find the idea of putting your finger in someone’s anus unpleasant, try showering together before you make love to make sure you’re both nice and clean all over.
Some people love to include the anus in their lovemaking. But if you don’t, just say so! You don’t have to like everything. Explore as far as you like, and don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
It doesn’t hurt to have a finger or penis in your anus if it happens in the right way and you take your time. Always use plenty of lubricant and a condom.
Does it feel nice? Do you want to carry on? Go with your feelings. Stop if it doesn’t feel right.
Never put pressure on anyone to have anal sex if they don’t seem entirely happy about it!
Ears
You can stroke them, kiss them, suck on the lobes, blow softly in them, slip your tongue inside – keep a close eye on her reaction, not everyone likes it!
Mouth and lips
Very important in lovemaking! You can kiss in lots of different ways. Discover together what you find pleasurable. Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth (be gentle!) to explore each other’s bodies.
Breasts and nipples
Breasts and nipples are really sensitive. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue and even your teeth (be very gentle!) to caress them. You can stroke them very gently, or rub and massage them more firmly.
Caress the breasts around the nipples, then work your way to the areola (the darker skin around the nipples), and finally stroke, kiss, lick or suck the nipples. Sometimes the nipples can be so sensitive it’s too much, so pay attention to her reaction.
When a girl is turned on (or if she’s cold) her nipples get harder and darker, and stand out more. Girls often feel it in their vagina as well when their breasts are touched, and it becomes moist.
It can feel especially nice for your partner if you touch her breasts and vagina at the same time. Girls sometimes like to touch their breasts when they masturbate.
Inside of the arms and elbows
Stroke softly over the upper arms, down along the inside of the arms and elbows – most people love it!
Navel and belly
The belly, or abdomen, is full of sensitive places. Caress or kiss softly down over her belly – it can be particularly exiting because it leads down towards her vagina. Pay attention to how she’s responding!
Hands
Obviously there’s a lot you can do with your hands. You can use them to stroke and caress your partner – or to explore your own body and give yourself pleasure. But it also feels nice if you stroke your partner’s hands. The palms are especially sensitive.
Vulva and vagina
Of course, the vulva and vagina are the most sensitive parts of her whole body, and especially the clitoris. You can use your fingers, your lips, your tongue to caress her labia and clitoris, and you can put a finger or two fingers – or your penis of course – inside her vagina.
The area between the vagina and the anus, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it. The clitoris can sometimes be so sensitive that it’s too intense if you touch it directly – she might prefer it if you stroke just above it or to the side.
Explore her body, use your imagination, and above all pay close attention to her reaction. Feel the way she moves, listen to her breathing and the sounds she makes.
When you make love, the vagina isn’t the place to start! Build up the tension slowly. Caress other sensitive places, like her neck, arms, back and thighs, then work your way to her breasts and buttocks. The more you kiss and caress her, the more aroused she’ll become, until she’s ready for you to move to her labia, clitoris and vagina.
When a girl is turned on, her labia and clitoris swell, the labia open up and the vagina becomes wet. The moisture is very important – it makes it easier and more comfortable for a finger or penis to slip inside.
How can you bring a girl to orgasm? Stimulate her clitoris using your fingers or by licking. Most girls don’t have an orgasm just by having intercourse, because although the penis in the vagina feels nice, it doesn’t stimulate the clitoris enough for them to climax.
An orgasm is a gorgeous feeling in your vagina, or sometimes through your whole body. All the muscles around your vulva repeatedly squeeze together and relax. Your heart can beat fast, your nipples get erect, you sweat, and you might get a red flush over your face and chest. Each time you have an orgasm is slightly different. Sometimes it’s really intense, and other times it passes more quickly.
A lot of girls like to masturbate. There are lots of ways to do it – with your finger, or perhaps with the jet of water from the shower. Some girls like to use a vibrator.
There’s nothing weird about masturbating. It feels nice and you get to know your own body. When you make love with a partner, you know what you like and how you can have an orgasm, and you can guide your partner.
Inner thighs
The inner thighs are really sensitive, and this can be an especially exiting place to be touched because it leads up towards the vagina. You can stroke with your fingers, kiss or lick.
Feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.Soles of the feet
The soles of the feet are very sensitive – and they can be very ticklish! It can be lovely to have your feet stroked, but you need to be relaxed.
Back of the head and neck
The back of the head and especially the neck are very sensitive. Kiss or stroke the back of her neck or run your fingers through her hair.
Back
The back is one big sensitive area. Stroke gently with your fingertips or nails, massage more firmly, or run your fingers up and down her spine. Don’t forget the sides – follow the line from her armpits down to her hips.
Buttocks and anus
It can feel lovely having your buttocks stroked, massaged or squeezed.
The anus isn’t necessarily the first part of the body you might think of touching, but it’s also very sensitive to the touch, and many girls like to have it stroked during lovemaking. It’s important that she washes properly beforehand of course!
The area between the anus and the vagina, the perineum, can also feel really nice – you can stroke it or gently press on it.
Some girls like it if you put a finger inside their anus. Always moisten your finger first with saliva or lubricant. When you first touch it, the anus squeezes shut – it’s a reflex. Rest your finger on it for a moment, and then you can go further.
If you find the idea of putting your finger in someone’s anus unpleasant, try showering together before you make love to make sure you’re both nice and clean all over.
Some people love to include the anus in their lovemaking. But if you don’t, just say so! You don’t have to like everything. Explore as far as you like, and don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
It doesn’t hurt to have a finger or penis in your anus if it happens in the right way and you take your time. Always use plenty of lubricant and a condom.
Does it feel nice? Do you want to carry on? Go with your feelings. Stop if it doesn’t feel right.
Never put pressure on anyone to have anal sex if they don’t seem entirely happy about it!
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