If you have a minor argument with your partner, try not to involve other people like friends or family. Their interference might create a bigger problem.
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“We were happily married until Amit was mocked because of my dark skin colour,” says Mira. “All our fights would boil down to my complexion.”
Family, friends and colleagues shunned Amit's choice of an ‘ugly’ wife. Prejudice about skin colour ground their happy marriage down until it ended in divorce. Part 2 in a MyStory mini-series on love and skin colour.
Intercourse – to put it bluntly, fucking or screwing – is when a boy puts his erect penis inside a girl’s vagina. And the girl takes the penis into her vagina.
Most young people make love in other ways first. So don’t think you have to have intercourse straight away.
How to have sex with a girl
Don’t start lovemaking with intercourse right at the beginning. Build up slowly, make sure you both get really turned on. Slowly undress each other, kiss and stroke each other’s bodies, give each other compliments.
First stroke her belly, her breasts, and the inside of her thighs. Try touching her mons pubis, between her legs, her labia briefly at first, as if by chance, to build up the excitement.
Stimulate the clitoris with your fingers or tongue. You can do this before, during and after intercourse. Most girls come when their clitoris is stimulated, not because of intercourse. This is because the clitoris isn’t in the vagina, but outside and in front of it.
Image: 1. Clitoris
Some girls have a G-spot. This is an area the size of a coin, three to five centimetres inside the vagina, on the front wall. For some girls it doesn’t give any special feeling, but for others it’s particularly sensitive.
Only have intercourse when the girl’s vagina is nice and moist, otherwise it’s painful for her.
Pain during intercourse
Some girls experience pain during intercourse. What’s causing the pain?
The first time can hurt her because the hymen is stretched.
It can hurt if the vagina isn’t moist enough. Take plenty of time to build up slowly before having intercourse, and be careful and gentle. Only start having intercourse when her vagina is moist enough. If need be use lubricant.
If she finds intercourse painful, it could be because she's tense. This means her pelvic floor muscles aren’t relaxing enough. Take time for her to relax and get aroused. Don't rush to have intercourse. Ask her how it feels.
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