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“I was introduced to my future husband by email, met him for the first time on Skype and married him two months later,” says Divya.
Divya got married two years ago to a match arranged by her father’s friend. According to her even though an arranged marriage doesn’t sound like the most romantic thing in the world, it’s the best decision she has made in her life.
Christian women in Nigeria talk about birth control more than Muslim women do, a new study found.
Women are often nervous of bringing up family planning with their husbands, especially in the mainly Muslim north where polygamy is quite common. God is the provider and women have no right to stop giving birth, people say.
Thirty percent of Muslim women say they’ve talked about family planning with their husband compared to 54 percent of Christian women, International Family Planning Conference by the US-based Bloomberg School of Public Health working with Nigerian family planning organisation NURHI.
A third of married women in Nigeria – most of them in the north – are in polygamous marriages, according to a 2008 health survey. Around one in six men have more than one wife. Polygamy is more common in rural areas, among older men, and among men with lower levels of education.
Many women feel that their husbands might be against using birth control, says Dr Saad Abdulmumin of NURHI. A man might even feel it calls into question his ability to provide for his family.
Some women fear a row over birth control might make their husband start preferring another wife – or even lead to divorce. So they deliberately choose to have a lot of children in a bid to hold on to their husband’s affections, recent studies found.
In the southern regions of Nigeria, girls tend to be educated and marry relatively late, according to a Nigerian Population Council survey. But in the northwest, more than half the girls aged 15 to 24 are married by the time they are 15, and most are married by 18.
This means it’s common for wives to be ten or more years younger than their husbands in northern Nigeria. Many husbands are actually old enough to be their wife’s father, especially in polygamous marriages.
For a young wife, it can be even more awkward to bring up the thorny matter of birth control with a man who feels like a fatherly figure.
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