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Fantasising about my girlfriend’s best friend

Fantasising about my girlfriend's best friend“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.

“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”


Low voice, low sperm count

Deep voice, low sperm countMen with deep, sexy voices have less sperm in their semen, an Australian study found.

Women find guys with deep voices more attractive than those with higher voices. So is a deep voice nature’s advert for top-quality sperm? It turns out the opposite is true. Deep-voiced men’s bodies put more energy into giving a good show than into making sperm.


Live-in lover

Kuber - guy next doorOur courts call them immoral and the media labels them as a fad. So what is the real deal with live-in relationships?

For a lot of us men, they simply imply free ‘love’. Yes, I am using a euphemism here, but you know what I mean. However the small minority of men who have actually been in a live-in relationship know better.


Peepshows can’t compete with internet

Peepshow in AmsterdamThe end of the Amsterdam peepshow is nigh. For those who like to ogle naked flesh, the internet is a lot handier.

A scantily-dressed or naked woman poses on a slowly-revolving platform. Customers pay to peer in through a peephole. For decades peepshows were crowd-pullers in Amsterdam’s Red Light district, but today there's just one left.


Eternal pursuit of Mr Right

Gayatri: A friend of mine said...There’s one right person out there for each of us – this is perhaps the most elusive human dream. And it’s a dream many of us cling to.

So it felt different to meet a friend who told me she’s getting married to a guy, not because she thought he was Mr Right, but because she was tired of waiting. “I’ve been with many guys,” she says. “There’s no right guy.”


Angry Brides battle dowry-grabbing grooms

Shaadi.com's Angry Brides Facebook appForget Angry Birds. Now you can play Angry Brides.

A new Facebook app created by popular matrimonial website shaadi.com lets players fight ‘greedy grooms’ who demand dowry – a practice that persists in India despite being outlawed more than 50 years ago. The game shows a woman with eight arms, each hand holding a ‘weapon’ such as a kitchen utensil or shoe.


Proud to march for queer freedom

Mumbai's Queer Azadi MarchMumbai's fifth gay pride march, the Queer Azadi (freedom) March, took place on Saturday.

Over 500 people gathered on the streets to demand equal rights for lesbians, gay, bisexual and transgender people. Sushil Mhatre told Love Matters how he fought his fears to take part for the first time, despite being “mid-way” out of the closet: “It was amazing to be part of this community feeling proud.”


Shock at gay 'cure' therapy

Shock at Dutch gay 'cure' therapyDutch state medical insurance has been paying for therapy to ‘cure’ gays – the revelation recently shocked many people in the Netherlands.

The Netherlands is known as one of the most liberal countries in the world when it comes to the accepting gays. But here too there are people who believe that therapy can make homosexual people straight.


Harassed: speak up or opt out?

Gayatri: A friend of mine said...Last weekend I hiked to some mountains just outside Bombay. It was pleasant, except that I felt harassed by a male co-hiker.

And to my utter surprise, I stayed quiet and avoided confrontation. Whatever happened to the won’t-take-bullshit rebel/feminist inside me?


Risky abortion on the rise worldwide

UterusMillions of desperate women around the world end unplanned pregnancies by resorting to risky backstreet abortions.

Worldwide the number of unsafe abortions is going up, a new study found. Most abortions in Africa and Latin America are unsafe – the same goes for India, where abortion is legal. But legalising abortion still saves lives, says Dutch campaign group Women on Waves.


Indian wedding trend: kinky bachelorette party

India's new wedding trend: kinky bachelorette partyBachelorette parties in India are becoming trendy among the well-off as well as the middle class.

Kinky decor, playboy costumes, penis-shaped cakes and even male strippers  women don’t hesitate to splurge while saying goodbye to their singlehood. “It would be any guy’s dream to crash that party. Room full of stunning-looking women, kinky stuff all around.”


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