If you stay in touch with an ex partner, ask yourself if you’re really ready for it. You’ll probably want to see your ex, but is it really a good idea?
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“I’ve never felt so guilty in my life,” says Anmol. He’s been with his girlfriend for two years but lately he’s found himself fantasising about her best friend.
“I don’t want to mess up my relationship over something like this but I really don't know how to get her friend out of my mind,” says Anmol. “I’m turned on every time I’m around her.”
If you go beyond kissing and caressing, it’s important to have safe sex. To avoid getting sexually transmitted diseases, and if you don’t want to get pregnant, you should always have safe sex.
This is unsafe
- Intercourse (the penis inside the vagina) without a condom and another form of contraception such as the pill
- Penetrative anal sex (the penis inside the anus) without a condom
- Oral sex without a condom for a boy or a dental dam (also called a vaginal dam – a square of latex to cover the vagina) for a girl
- Using each other’s sex toys without washing them in-between
This is safe
- Caressing, tongue kissing, cuddling, massaging, masturbating yourself or your partner.
- Intercourse (the penis inside the vagina) with a quality approved condom.
- Intercourse (the penis inside the vagina) with a quality approved condom to prevent infection and another form of contraception such as the pill to be sure of preventing unwanted pregnancy
Oral sex without getting sperm or blood (for example menstrual blood) in your mouth
The safest way to have sex is "double Dutch" - using both a condom and another form of contraception, such as the pill. The condom protects you against sexually transmitted diseases. The other contraceptive, such as the pill, is to make sure you don’t get pregnant, because a condom isn’t 100 percent effective. See the section on birth control.
If you don’t get blood or sperm in your mouth during oral sex, you don’t run the risk of catching HIV. But you can still get other sexually transmitted diseases, such as herpes.
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