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Vibrators give the most speedy and powerful orgasms. In fact women worry their sex toy could put their partners out of a job.
For women who have trouble reaching a climax, a vibrator is the answer, according to research at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in New York. But you should be aware of what you’re getting into – it might change the way you feel about sex.
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“Instant orgasm, like, immediately. I literally put it there and I am like ‘Oh my God.’ I never had an orgasm like that immediately. Ever. Ever.”
When Dr Bat Sheva Marcus asked a group of women who’d never used a vibrator to try it out for a month, many were amazed.
“This was like kryptonite for men,” said one woman. “I think the most orgasms I had was three, but I could have had more.”
For a few of the women the sensation was just too intense, and they had to switch to a less powerful model. Many said it took them a while to get the hang of it.
- The vibrator was invented in the early 1880s – one of the first was steam powered.
- Vibrators were first used as medical treatment for women diagnosed as “hysterical”. Doctors gave them “pelvic massage” to cause “poroxysms”. But the medical men found it heavy going by hand – a vibrator was easier.
- Research shows that fewer than half of all women usually have an orgasm during intercourse. A vibrator usually gives more than 90 percent of women an orgasm.
The fast and intense orgasms left some with an uneasy feeling. The women said they felt bad about needing a machine to create the sensation instead of relying on their own or their partner’s body.
Some in the group were also concerned about their partner’s feelings. They felt selfish or guilty for having fun with the vibrator instead of with their partner.
But for the same number of women, the vibrator made them feel “liberated”. Before the trial one participant said she thought vibrators weren’t for ordinary people like her, but for women who were “more crazy sexually”. After a “wild” month with the vibrator, she’d changed her mind: “Maybe I’ve decided I’m one of those crazy women!”
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