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Women have wet dreams too
Most men have had a wet dream at some point in their lives. What’s less well known is that women can also come in their sleep, says Dr Ellen Laan, a psychologist at the University of Amsterdam.
Some women are woken in the night by the intense pleasure of an orgasm. There’s usually no ejaculate, but the vagina does become wet and lubricated.
Yet women’s night-time climaxes largely remain a mystery, says Dr Laan, who specialises in studying the differences between male and female sexual arousal.
“Why don’t we know more about women’s experiences? Because women’s organs are on the inside. They can’t see and feel what’s happening to their genitals the way men can.”
Healthy
For men, you know you’ve had a wet dream, or ‘nocturnal emission’, when you wake up and feel the damp patch on your bed. You might think you’ve peed, but in fact, it’s semen. It happens spontaneously and often men have a wet dream without even dreaming about sex.
“Men have about four to five erections a night, connected with rapid eye movement,” Dr Laan says. “We think this happens because it’s good for sex organs to be engorged with blood on a regular basis – it’s healthy for the tissue.”
Friction or squeezing
The same also applies to women. “We have studies measuring vaginal reactions during sleep and you see the same pattern of arousal that you see in men.”
While women’s genitals become engorged, it usually takes a little more stimulus to produce an orgasm.
“So suppose you’re a woman in this cycle. If your sensitivity threshold is low, you may only need a little bit of friction or a little bit of squeezing of the muscles in the groin to give you an orgasm. This is often instinctive because you’re half asleep.”
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My wet dreams
Hi, I'm a 33 year old woman who has wet dreams on a regular basis. Especially after my husband and I have had intercourse that day/night.
I have been having wet dreams ever since I was in my 20s. I have wet dreams from random dreams. So they normally don't always start out sexual.
Most of the time I feel that I wake up during them. It is a half and half state. I remember them later on when I fully awake.
It seems for me that the nights I have the wet dreams I am more aroused the following day.
The wet dreams have nothing to do with my husband giving me or not giving me an orgasm.
I seem to orgasm a lot easier to orgasm in a wet dream than I do with my husband. Maybe because in my wet dream I am mostly in control.
I hope this helps in your insight into wet dreams.
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Hi, Folks. Has NOBODY here at WWO ever heard of the female G-spot?Faking oarsgms? In my humble estimation, ANY woman who fakes an orgasm, for ANY reason, is a liar. It is also seldom if ever in her best interests to do so. If her male partner thinks that he satisfied her, how motivated is he going to be to improve his performance or his technique or to seek new ways of arousing and satisfying his partner? He is more likely to have an ego inflation.If he did know that he had not satisfied you and did not seek to do better next time if there was to be a next time would you want to continue having sex with him?EVERY woman who fakes an orgasm is not only doing herself a dis-service but her sisters-in-sex as well. Us poor, dumb males can only very seldom feel what it happening for, with or inside our female partners while we are engaged in vaginal sexual intercourse. This is because our own body movements and sensations do not lend themselves to feeling what is happening to our partner's body.With this in mind, may I suggest that you give hima little HONEST feedback along the way.If you, as a woman, want him to do something to help you achieve an orgasm or six TELL him or ASK him.I have had four relationships that lasted for 6 months or more. Either I was lied to an awful lot or these women were ALL among the 30-odd% who find it relatively easy to experience oarsgms. Which was it? I guess I'll never know either way BUT I did put a bit more than just my penis into our sex and love-making.One of the things that constantly amazes me is that women DEMAND honesty from a male partner yet they will LIE to their male partners about having oarsgms. Talk about double standards.Just my 0.02.You all have a wonderful HONEST sex life. Best wishes. Deas Plant.
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We've also heard from some women who say they experienced more wet dreams during pregnancy. It's a fascinating subject.